I hate my parents
im not anti-social at all, i was just at a party yesterday night getting absoloutley smashed. they just think i have "issues" getting along with people that harass me. wtf?
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experament_u2
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beebs u r exacly like me and ur perent are exacly like mine the anserw my freind is it do it without them knowing hide them and shoot them away from home or wen there not home 8) (soz about spelling mistakes)
Beebs, how about a few thoughts from a young father? First off, you aren't going to change your father's view of guns. Nor your mother's. Challenging their views in a hostile situation is a bad plan is it will only infuriate them. And what's the most obvious way to punish you? Why, take away the offending activity.
You are fifteen and in the eyes of the state you aren't old enough to make ANY decisions regarding your health and well-being unless extreme measures are taken. So you are stuck at an impasse. Instead of getting infuriated or getting your parents pissed maybe you need to apply a different measure of thinking?
You know your father enjoyed the math club. Well, there is a huge body of science attached to practical combustion and pneumatics. As well as bodies of stress on independent objects. And so on and so forth. If you can get him honestly involved in the design based on mathematics perhaps you can then move him into working with you. Learn a positive math skill and get you father interested in the hobby again? Sounds like a little work for a large payout. Need a lathe? Get him involved in helping you build one. Just another example.
Right now both your mother and father are against the hobby? Get one of them on your side and you've accomplished a divide and conquer campaign.
Look, speaking as a parent, nothing is more important than the safety of your child and despite his or her thinking, I know better. Its called benefit of experience. You may know more about one subject than me but life experience speaks volumes. This may be completely messed up but that's how parents feel. And don't sneak around. If you are caught out doing this you can dash all hope of resuming your hobby to the rocks.
Don't attack the problem directly. There is always a solution....
You are fifteen and in the eyes of the state you aren't old enough to make ANY decisions regarding your health and well-being unless extreme measures are taken. So you are stuck at an impasse. Instead of getting infuriated or getting your parents pissed maybe you need to apply a different measure of thinking?
You know your father enjoyed the math club. Well, there is a huge body of science attached to practical combustion and pneumatics. As well as bodies of stress on independent objects. And so on and so forth. If you can get him honestly involved in the design based on mathematics perhaps you can then move him into working with you. Learn a positive math skill and get you father interested in the hobby again? Sounds like a little work for a large payout. Need a lathe? Get him involved in helping you build one. Just another example.
Right now both your mother and father are against the hobby? Get one of them on your side and you've accomplished a divide and conquer campaign.
Look, speaking as a parent, nothing is more important than the safety of your child and despite his or her thinking, I know better. Its called benefit of experience. You may know more about one subject than me but life experience speaks volumes. This may be completely messed up but that's how parents feel. And don't sneak around. If you are caught out doing this you can dash all hope of resuming your hobby to the rocks.
Don't attack the problem directly. There is always a solution....
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MrCrowley
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It worked for me, I built it when they said not to. Now they don't mind and drive me to plumbing merchants and what not.Infernal2 wrote:Beebs, how about a few thoughts from a young father? First off, you aren't going to change your father's view of guns. Nor your mother's. Challenging their views in a hostile situation is a bad plan is it will only infuriate them. And what's the most obvious way to punish you? Why, take away the offending activity.
^^^I can tell you you wouldn't have if you'd have had my parents. Or me. I (as my parents before me) are devious bastards. Remember, they don't have to say no, they can just restrict every part of your life. And then what do you do? Run away? Try affording a hobby on a McD wage.
^ Well, that sounds kinda like my friend's parents. If you piss them off, or they end up finding out about something you were hiding from them,
you might as well jump off a cliff. They care about him and all, but they don't like secrets kept away from them, and they will restrict you until you feel like a shriveled up piece of crap. That's what I learned from watching his family.
Option 1. Be direct. Tell them what you want and exactly why and what it is. Show them the site, that kind of thing. Let them know what they are deciding for or against.
Option 2. Depending on how smart/inventive the parents are,-dont get caught.
Option 3. Make smaller guns. It sucks, (I should know) but if that's the only way, do it.
you might as well jump off a cliff. They care about him and all, but they don't like secrets kept away from them, and they will restrict you until you feel like a shriveled up piece of crap. That's what I learned from watching his family.
Option 1. Be direct. Tell them what you want and exactly why and what it is. Show them the site, that kind of thing. Let them know what they are deciding for or against.
Option 2. Depending on how smart/inventive the parents are,-dont get caught.
Option 3. Make smaller guns. It sucks, (I should know) but if that's the only way, do it.
Do some research on the pressures created by combustion guns and show them the pressure ratings of the pipe you use to show them they are safe to opperate. Then you really need their trust that you won't hurt anyone/anything. I know you wouldn't, but you need to prove it to them.
I have a similar situation to yours. One of my hobbies besides spud guns is pyro. I know how stressful it can be. People freak out when I mention anything, I have had my chem teacher watching me like a hawk ever since one incident in class, my neighbors get suspicous when I am outside, and I have a reputation at school as being a pyro/arsonist/"1337 bomber". But, I am the only person who has been hurt from practicing pyro. Although, I have also become more responsible and careful from practicing pyro.
The situation with my parents is that my mom is a (female dog) and I have no contact with her except the occassional time I get a call from her and end up swearing her out. And my dad doesn't even know about my love of chemistry/pyro, even though he knows I love fire, and seems to even like my spud guns. The reason my dad hasn't found out is because I keep things pretty well hid, and haven't told him because I know he would freak out. Right now I'm 17, so I have less than a year before I can do as I wish and move out, where I can practice pyro/chem without having to worry about parents making a fuss.
I have a similar situation to yours. One of my hobbies besides spud guns is pyro. I know how stressful it can be. People freak out when I mention anything, I have had my chem teacher watching me like a hawk ever since one incident in class, my neighbors get suspicous when I am outside, and I have a reputation at school as being a pyro/arsonist/"1337 bomber". But, I am the only person who has been hurt from practicing pyro. Although, I have also become more responsible and careful from practicing pyro.
The situation with my parents is that my mom is a (female dog) and I have no contact with her except the occassional time I get a call from her and end up swearing her out. And my dad doesn't even know about my love of chemistry/pyro, even though he knows I love fire, and seems to even like my spud guns. The reason my dad hasn't found out is because I keep things pretty well hid, and haven't told him because I know he would freak out. Right now I'm 17, so I have less than a year before I can do as I wish and move out, where I can practice pyro/chem without having to worry about parents making a fuss.